The Manifestation Block You’re Ignoring (And How to Clear It in 5 Steps)

The Manifestation Block You’re Ignoring (And How to Clear It in 5 Steps): A simple but powerful healing ritual to help you forgive, let go, and finally manifest what you truly want.

I used to carry so much pain in my body without even realizing it. I thought I had moved on, thought I was strong for brushing it off and pushing forward. But deep down, I was still reacting to life through old wounds, people-pleasing, overachieving, and constantly feeling like I wasn’t enough. The truth is, you can’t manifest a new reality while dragging around unhealed energy from your past. I had to face it... all of it. The anger, the resentment, the things I never said. And what changed everything for me was this simple but powerful letter-writing practice. Through it, I was finally able to release the weight of my childhood, forgive the people who hurt me, and reconnect with the younger version of myself who just wanted to feel safe. This is the exact process I used to free myself and I promise, if you do the work, it will change everything for you too.

Healing doesn’t mean pretending the past didn’t happen, it means choosing to see it through a new lens. When we rewrite our narrative, we’re not erasing the truth of what hurt us. We’re honouring it, then deciding how we carry it forward. The brain doesn’t distinguish between what’s happening now and what we’re vividly imagining so when we shift our response to those past experiences, we actually begin to rewire how our subconscious holds onto them. Instead of storing trauma as a threat, our system begins to release the charge, soften the edges, and create safety within. It’s not about denying what happened, it’s about reclaiming our power to decide what it means now. That’s when healing begins to feel like freedom.

Our interpretation of an experience is what creates the emotional imprint, not the experience itself. That’s why two people can go through the exact same situation and walk away with completely different stories. One might feel broken by it, while the other feels empowered. For example, imagine two siblings growing up in the same household. One felt unloved and invisible, while the other felt independent and motivated to succeed. It wasn’t the house, the rules, or the parents alone, it was how each child internalized those experiences. This shows us that our perception is powerful, and the good news is: it can be reshaped. When we go back and view our past through a new lens with more wisdom, context, and compassion we change how it lives inside of us.

You can’t manifest with underlying subconscious trauma because it creates incoherent frequency and blocks the very things you're trying to attract. Healing is the bridge between where you are and the life you want. In the steps below, you’ll be writing letters to people, whether they’re still alive or not and reading those letters out loud to yourself. Once you’ve fully expressed what needs to be said, you’ll burn or bury them as a way to energetically release the weight they carry. These letters are for your healing only. No one else will ever read them.

Step 1: Identify What Emotions, Behaviours or Beliefs That Are Blocking You

List the behaviours, beliefs, or emotions you want to change.

Examples: unworthiness, perfectionism, people-pleasing, seeking external validation, anger, scarcity, feeling unloved, or unseen.

This step requires deep honesty. Don’t filter yourself, your healing depends on acknowledging what’s really there.

Step 2: Write a Letter to Your Parents

Most of our core wounds begin in childhood, so this is the most important place to start.

Write an individual letter to each parent. In the letter:

• Recount specific situations that impacted you.

• Describe how those moments made you feel at the time.

• Reflect on why you believe they acted the way they did. What were they going through?

• Then, from your adult self, write with empathy: acknowledge their lack of awareness or lack of personal healing, and how they could only meet you at the level they had met themselves.

Let your words flow without judgment. This isn’t about excusing, it’s about releasing. Write until you have said anything and everything you’ve ever needed or wanted to say. This could be 3 pages or 10 pages. The more detailed and emotional it is the better it will work.

Step 3: Expand the Practice

Write letters to anyone you can identify from your past of present who trigger you the most when you think about them. Use the same structure as above:

• Specific moments

• How it made you feel

• Why you think they acted that way

• What you now understand about it from a higher perspective

Step 4: Write a Letter to Your Younger Self

This is where the reparenting begins. You’ve released old stories tied to others and reframed them from your new perspective . Now it’s time to return to you, the younger version of yourself who needed love, safety, encouragement, and truth.

In this letter, speak to your younger self the way you wish someone had spoken to you. Pretend like you are the parent speaking to a younger version of yourself.

• Acknowledge your pain.

  – Validate what you went through and how it made you feel.

  – Let your younger self know it wasn’t their fault.

  Example: “You shouldn’t have had to carry that much at such a young age. The yelling, the tension, the way no one asked how you were, it wasn’t okay. You learned to stay small, to be strong, to hide your feelings just to feel safe. None of that was your fault. You were just a kid trying to survive in a world that didn’t know how to love you properly.”

• Express the truth about your worth.

  – Tell them what they never got to hear.

  – Remind them they were always lovable and enough.

  Example: “You didn’t have to be the quiet one to keep the peace. You didn’t have to get straight A’s to feel seen. You were worthy before you achieved a single thing. You didn’t have to shrink, perform, or earn your place, just being you was always enough.”

• Show them who you’ve become.

  – Let them know they’re safe with you now.

  – Reassure them that you're building a better life for both of you.

  – Share your greatest accomplishments and how they've made you feel.

  Example: “We made it. I’ve created a life filled with peace, purpose, and people who see us. You don’t have to keep proving your worth, I know how valuable you are. From now on, I’ll be the one protecting you, encouraging you, and celebrating everything you are.”

• Rewrite the identity.

  – Shift from victimhood to empowerment.

  – Replace old narratives with new truths.

  Example: “You’re no longer the person who says yes just to avoid disappointing others. You’re not the one who hides how they really feel to keep things smooth. That’s not your story anymore. Now, you set boundaries, speak up for yourself, and trust that your needs matter too. We don’t just survive, we make intentional choices that align with who we are.”

• Offer comfort and reassurance.

  – Be the loving, safe presence they always needed.

  – Commit to showing up for them going forward.

  Example: “I know you still get anxious when things feel uncertain. But I’m here now, and I won’t abandon you. When fear comes up, I’ll pause, breathe with you, and remind you we’re safe. You don’t have to figure it all out alone anymore. I’ve got us, and I’m not going anywhere.”

• After writing this letter, read it aloud, hold a photo of your younger self, or place your hand over your heart as you connect with these words.

Step 5: Let It Go

After reading each letter out loud and allowing the emotions to be fully felt and expressed, burn or bury the letters. This symbolizes release. Watch the old stories turn to ash or get buried forever as your new interpretations take over your subconscious.

This letter-writing exercise is one of the most powerful tools I’ve used personally to heal, release, and realign. If you’d like support walking through the process step-by-step, let’s jump on a mentoring call, you can find all the details here. Or, if this resonated with you, I dive even deeper into transformational techniques like this in my latest book, Wake Up & Smell The Coffee. It’s a wake-up call for anyone ready to stop following the crowd and start following their heart and a true guide for living intentionally and authentically.

After completing this exercise, don’t be surprised if things start to shift... not overnight, but steadily and deeply. In the weeks and months ahead, you will notice that the situations or people that once consumed your thoughts no longer hold the same emotional charge. That’s your subconscious doing its work by replacing old, painful stories with new ones rooted in understanding, and compassion. You’ll likely feel lighter, more emotionally free, and more connected to your authentic self. Your nervous system will begin to calm and your body will start releasing old, built up tension. Your energy will feel clearer. You’ll vibrate at a higher frequency... one that aligns with peace, joy, and possibility. And from that place, manifestation becomes natural. You’re no longer trying to attract a new life while anchored to an old one. You’ve created space for what you actually want and now, it can finally find you.

If you try this practice, I’d love to hear how it unfolds for you. Your healing journey is powerful, and you don’t have to walk it alone. Feel free to reach out and share your experience I’m always here, cheering you on.